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A Case For Taking Yourself Seriously (opens the original)
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Let’s start with what it’s not.It’s not never laughing, or doing things just to do them. It does not mean quitting painting, or skipping the beach, or talking yourself out of that pottery class you keep saying you’ll book. It is not the museum trip you cancel because you “should be working,” nor the daily walk, or the random Thursday movie night. Whatever your poison is, taking yourself seriously doesn’t mean sucking the whimsy out of your life.Keeping the child in you alive can, in some ways, e
Are You Ready for the Inconvenience of a Relationship? (opens the original)
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There’s something a lot of people learn pretty late. Any worthwhile relationship, and I do not mean just romantic ones, requires work. It thrives on many things, but a core part of its foundation is intentional effort, whatever that looks like for your unique capacity and your unique relationship. Too often, many run headfirst into romantic relationships, thinking it will be warm roses and butterflies, the softest landing. Some are aware that there will be much more to it, but we were sold roman
I Worked for Women’s Rights Until They Fired Me When I Got Pregnant (opens the original)
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I wish I could start this with light banter, but I am furious. The past few days have felt like a relentless, exhausting parade of rot and betrayal. Watching the current NAFDAC Director General laugh on camera when asked to step down, the second woman to hold that post, actively bastardising the standard, integrity, and public safety that Dora Akunyili gave her life to build, was an absolute slap in the face. Combine that with the horrifying story of a mother sexually exploiting her own daughter
Marriage Isn't Supposed to Cost You Every Other Relationship (opens the original)
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I’ve been thinking about friendships. The older we get, the more we believe that friends are hard to make. Growing up, proximity did the work for us: school forced you into contact with the same people for 6, 7 hours a day, 6 days a week or more, and uni still gave you some of that. But once you’re out, deep in the workforce, entirely in charge of your own life, when you start existing as a whole person in society, friendship stops happening by accident. It starts needing more intentional effort
My Perfect Boyfriend Had a Wife and Three Other Girlfriends (opens the original)
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Hi bestie!I woke up at 6:00 AM today after the most relaxing steam and massage session last night. Honestly, I haven’t felt this relaxed in so long! Everyone needs to do this way more often than they realise. After waking up, I took my little kitty (who is actually my 3-year-old orange cat) to the front porch to watch the sky begin to lighten, but of course, she tried to run away, and I had to chase her around the compound. Good times! Afterwards, I had my coffee, lit that jay, and sat down to s
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