HeyJaredWaking Up to Narcissism
"Waking Up to Narcissism" is a podcast hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT, host of the award-winning Virtual Couch podcast, dedicated to helping individuals recognize and navigate narcissistic traits and tendencies in their relationships and within themselves.
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- Sep 24, 2026
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Why Good People Defend Leaders (and Others) Who Contradict Themselves: Identity, Bias & Belonging (opens the original)
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Why do smart, thoughtful people believe such different things? Authority bias, confirmation bias, and belonging shape what we believe long before we can explain why. Tony starts with a kid raised in an East Coast fishing town, and another raised hiking Arizona trails. He uses them to show how beliefs tend to form through family, community, and identity, with the reasons showing up later. Then he brings the same lens to politics from a neutral place. He looks at how a trusted "Uncle Mike" can sha
Death By 1,000 Cuts Pt. 12: Stopping at an Invisible Fence (opens the original)
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Narcissistic relationship patterns can teach you where to stop, long after anyone has to correct you. Installment 12 of Death by 1,000 Cuts uses the image of an invisible fence to describe how a dog learns to stop at a line nobody walking by can see, and how people living with emotional immaturity and ongoing criticism can learn in much the same way. Listener stories from husbands and wives describe rehearsing an afternoon in the driveway before walking inside, planning vacations that end at the
Stuck in the Messy Middle: Grief, Divorce, and Emotional Immaturity - Live Q&A with Tony Overbay (opens the original)
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Was it narcissistic abuse, or were you the problem? Why does the fog lift after a divorce, and you still can't trust your own judgment? In this second live therapist Q&A, moderated by Tony's daughter Sydney, almost every question came from someone in the middle of something: a divorce after ten years of marriage, an only child clearing out her late mom's house, a man texting a grieving partner and hearing nothing back, a listener whose therapist of eight years had died. Tony opens with why the b
The Relationship Episode Everyone Needs to Hear: Why We Explain Instead of Understand (opens the original)
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When someone you love tells you, “Something you did hurt me,” what happens inside of you next? Do you become curious about what it was like to be on the receiving end of you, or does your brain immediately start building the case for why you did what you did, what you meant, what they misunderstood, and what they did first? That difference may quietly shape almost everything that happens in a relationship. In what may be one of the most important episodes of The Virtual Couch for anyone who is i
The Unicorn Might Have Rabies: How Anxiety Keeps You "Safe" - Live Q&A (opens the original)
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What do you do when you finally have language for your in-law's emotional immaturity (or dare I say narcissistic behaviors) — and your spouse, the one who grew up with it, doesn't see it yet. Do you tell them? Do you go directly to your in-law? In his first live Q&A in a year, Tony takes on one of the most painful positions a partner can be in: watching your spouse work so hard to please a parent who rarely lets them feel enough, while any observation you offer lands like an attack. Tony explain
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