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Welcome to Untamed Ember, the podcast where pleasure is your birthright, curiosity is your compass, and unlearning shame is part of the foreplay.Hosted by Dr.
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Neurodivergence & Ethical Non-Monogamy: When Standard Relationship Advice Doesn't Fit (opens the original)
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What if the problem isn’t that you’re bad at ethical non-monogamy, but that the advice you’ve been given was built for a nervous system that doesn’t work like yours? In Season 2, Episode 8 of Untamed Ember, Dr. Misty explores ethical non-monogamy through a neurodivergent lens, including how autism, ADHD, sensory processing differences, executive function, masking, and rejection sensitivity can change what communication and relationship support actually need to look like. A lot of standard ENM ad
Co-Regulation in Polyamory: Finding Your Own Ground Before You Find Each Other (opens the original)
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Co-regulation is one of the ways human nervous systems find safety with each other. But what happens when one partner becomes your only reliable way back to steady ground? In Season 2, Episode 7 of Untamed Ember, Dr. Misty explores co-regulation, self-regulation, and nervous system capacity inside polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. Non-monogamy doesn’t necessarily create dependence on a partner for regulation. Sometimes, it simply exposes a single-anchor system that was already there. Through t
Why You Can't Force Compersion (The Nervous System Science of ENM) (opens the original)
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Compersion has turned into a merit badge. Feel it, prove it, post about it, and if you don't feel it yet, apparently something's wrong with you. Here's what the group chats and panel talks won't tell you: compersion isn't a switch you flip by wanting to be enlightened enough. It's a nervous system state, and nervous systems don't take orders from your ideology, no matter how good that ideology is. In this episode, Dr. Misty breaks down what compersion actually is (and isn't), why an entire "comp
Attachment Styles in Polyamory: Your Body Remembered (opens the original)
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Knowing your attachment style doesn't fix anything. You can take the quiz, read every book, and announce yourself as "anxiously attached" at dinner, and the knowing still won't stop you from checking your phone four times during your partner's date. That's because your nervous system isn't reading the book. It's running a much older program. In this episode, Dr. Misty breaks down what attachment theory actually says (and what pop psychology got wrong about it), why opening up a relationship does
Jealousy Is Information (Your Nervous System Has Been Trying to Tell You Something) (opens the original)
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You said you were fine with it. You thought you were fine with it. And then your partner went on a date and you spent the whole night on the couch unable to eat, with something sitting in your chest you couldn't name. Most of us have been taught to treat jealousy as a problem to logic our way out of, a sign we're not evolved enough, not healed enough, not ready for the relationship structure we've chosen. But that framing isn't just unhelpful. It's clinically backwards. In this episode, Dr. Mist
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