HeyJaredUndressing Intimacy
A real life couple with real life examples on how to create emotional and physical intimacy in marriage.
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105: The Big Four of Erotic Connection: What Are You Actually Seeking in Sex? (opens the original)
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When you want sex with your partner, what are you actually seeking? In Episode 105, we unpack author Emily Nagoski's "Big Four" motivations for erotic connection and explore what really drives us toward physical intimacy when we strip away obligation, duty, and performance. Many couples fall into the trap of viewing sex as a task to check off, a way to release stress, or a tool to manage a partner's mood. But true eroticism requires stepping out of the "domestic bucket" of doing and into a space
104. From Control to Connection: Why You Can't Force Your Partner to Choose You (opens the original)
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Happy two-year anniversary to Undressing Intimacy ! In Episode 104, we step back to celebrate two full years of the podcast by answering the single most fundamental question underneath almost every relationship struggle: How do we get our partner to choose us? If you strip away all the surface-level arguments about schedules, chores, and frequency, the core human desire in marriage is to feel freely chosen . But when anxiety hits, most of us default to control—trying to manipulate, pressure, ear
103. The Real Secret to Mind-Blowing Sex: Cultivating Your Capacity to Stay Present (opens the original)
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We are officially one episode away from our two-year anniversary ! To kick off this milestone episode, we are thrilled to announce Jacob Swanson as the official winner of our 100th-episode private coaching giveaway! The core of today's episode is a deep dive into what actually unlocks transcendent, mind-blowing physical intimacy. The hard truth is that great sex isn't about matching libidos or trying new techniques— it is about cultivating the emotional capacity and nervous system stamina to sta
102. Our Story: Reclaiming Trust and Intimacy After a "Nuclear Explosion" (opens the original)
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This week, things are a little different! Special guest host Tony Overbay turns the microphone around to interview us about our own raw, 28-year marriage journey. We pull back the curtain on the first 17 years of our marriage when we struggled deeply with intimacy, and the "nuclear explosion" of pornography discovery. We discuss how we moved past "white-knuckling" into true, differentiated connection by shifting how we handle safety, honesty, and desire. Key breakthroughs unpacked in this interv
101. Why People-Pleasing Is Secretly Killing the Desire in Your Marriage (opens the original)
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Are you constantly modifying yourself, walking on eggshells, or "should-ing" all over yourself to keep the peace? In Episode 101 , we dive deep into the hidden cost of people-pleasing in relationships. Developmentally, every human being starts out needing external validation to feel safe. But when we get stuck chasing that "gold star" of approval, we trade our presence for temporary predictability—and we end up erasing our true selves in the process. True intimacy requires two whole, differentia
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