HeyJaredThem Before Us
Helping you navigate difficult discussions around divorce, abortion, surrogacy, IVF, gender ideology, and more. Get the language you need to defend your beliefs and protect the rights of children.
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My Stepdad Is Serving 200 Years (opens the original)
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From TBU: What sets Them Before Us apart is our commitment to amplifying the voices of the real victims: children. When adult desires are prioritized, it is children who pay the price. Note that Rashell’s story features mentions of physical abuse and the threat of sexual violence when she was a child.My parents were young when they married, both 17. My mother was still in high school and pregnant. She graduated, but my dad didn’t. He worked in the oilfield in Oklahoma and made great money when t
Dad’s Voice (opens the original)
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Moments after my (Patience) daughter was born, my husband said hello to her. She turned her head, her eyes wide—although not seeing more than eight or so inches ahead of her—locked in on the sound of a familiar voice that wasn’t her mom’s. While there’s a lot about the moments right after her birth that are a blur in my memory, that one stands out, forever etched in my and my husband’s memory. The moment our daughter first met her dad.<a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" href="https://su
5 Ways We’ve Turned Children into Products (opens the original)
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The natural family, inside the covenant of marriage, is the most protective arrangement in the history of civilization.And I (Josh) don’t mean that sentimentally. I mean it structurally. It’s the only arrangement that delivers four things to every child automatically, without anyone having to qualify for it, and without any state having to grant it.SafetyBiology does something to adults. It creates an attachment that does not depend on the adult’s ongoing willingness, and parents will do things
What Twelve Kids Cost Me (opens the original)
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Note from TBU: What sets Them Before Us apart is our commitment to amplifying the voices of the real victims of family breakdown: the children. We also share hopeful stories about marriage and family to encourage a reset in how we think about hardships and joys. When adults prioritize their desires, children pay the price. When children’s well-being is prioritized, families thrive. This is a guest post from Megan, a mom of 12, highlighting the joys and challenges of having a big family.<a class=
Before You Say Yes to IVF (opens the original)
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A woman checks the pregnancy test. Negative again. She feels hopeless that she and her husband are unable to get pregnant, and her friends are encouraging her to do IVF. Two men want a child. They buy an egg, rent a surrogate, and pay a lab to create the little boy they want. A woman’s husband dies in an accident, and she takes his sperm to create their child in his memory. IVF is showing up in state legislation and in pulpit conversations, and most people weighing in on it don't actually know w
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