HeyJaredThe Secure Husband
A Secure Husband no longer seeks validation from his wife—he stands strong in self-worth, meets his own emotional needs, and leads with confidence and clarity.
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I Shouldn’t Have to Ask (Shame Podcast Series) (opens the original)
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“I shouldn’t have to ask.” I shouldn’t have to ask my wife for affection. I shouldn’t have to ask her to initiate sex. I shouldn’t have to ask to feel wanted. Those feelings are understandable. We want affection and desire that feel natural and freely given. But sometimes “I shouldn’t have to ask” really means “I’m afraid to ask.” In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains how shame and anxious attachment can turn unspoken needs into resentment. Instead of clearly askin
The Shame Beneath Anxious Attachment in Marriage (Shame Podcast Series) (opens the original)
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Anxious attachment in marriage is often explained as a fear of abandonment or rejection. But there may be something deeper underneath that fear: shame. A husband with anxious attachment may worry when his wife pulls away, stops initiating affection, rejects sex, or seems emotionally distant. But the deeper pain may come from what those moments seem to say about him. I am too needy. I am undesirable. I am not worth choosing. There must be something wrong with me. In this episode of The Secure Hus
What Does Shame Have To Do With A Sexless Marriage? (Shame Podcast Series) (opens the original)
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What does shame have to do with a sexless marriage? More than most husbands realize. Repeated sexual rejection can slowly change from “My wife does not want sex” into “My wife does not want me.” Then it can become “I am not desirable” or even “There is something wrong with me.” That is where sexual rejection can turn into shame. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains how shame can affect both spouses in a sexless marriage. A husband may feel unwanted, unattractive,
Shame - The Voice That Says Something Is Wrong With Me (Shame Podcast Series) (opens the original)
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Shame often hides underneath anxious attachment, fear of rejection, people pleasing, anger, defensiveness, and relationship anxiety. You may never think, “I feel shame.” Instead, you may hear an old voice that says, “Something is wrong with me.” In this first episode of The Shame Podcast Series, Bruce Abbott explains how shame can quietly shape your marriage and your attachment style. Shame can turn your wife's rejection into “I am undesirable.” Her need for space can become “I am too much.” Her
Ending The Marriage Must Be An Option On The Table (The Invisible Marriage Podcast Series) (opens the original)
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How do you know when it is time to stop trying to save your marriage? That is one of the hardest questions a husband can face. In this final episode of The Invisible Marriage Podcast Series, Bruce Abbott talks about the difference between making a decision from fear and making a decision from clarity. He explains why becoming secure is not about learning to tolerate loneliness. It is about healing your attachment wounds, telling the truth about your marriage, and deciding what kind of life you a
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