HeyJaredThe Reframe Diaries
For late-identified autistic and AuDHD adults: making sense of overcapacity, collapse, and the slow rebuild — your life as a coherent journey, not a series of personal failures. Language and orientation for the life you're living.
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“I LIKE THE NEW ME” (opens the original)
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Rebuilding an Identity That Is Not Run by the Survival Instinct (opens the original)
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We set this conversation up around a question I have been circling for a long time. How do you rebuild an identity that is not defined by the trauma you lived through, and not run by the survival instinct?Before we got anywhere near what helps, I said where I had landed on it. This is lifelong. It is not that you do the work, and then you are healed, and then you live a life uninfluenced by your trauma. I make decisions every day that are still trauma-led, and I will come back at the end to the
You Can Understand All of It and the Mask Still Will Not Come Off (opens the original)
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I can name every strand of it. I know when it was built, what it was built for, which rooms it was built in. I can explain the mechanism to you in some detail, with citations. And the squeeze in my chest is exactly the same.That is the sentence this conversation turned on, and it is the sentence the whole of my Before the Mask Series has been walking towards.If you have been reading the series, you know the argument. A mask built out of childhood trauma does not behave like social masking. The u
Where Am I? A pocket guide to The Overcapacity, Collapse and Rebuild Arc for late-identified autistic and AuDHD adults (opens the original)
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"YOU MIGHT BE GOOD AT THIS, BUT IT IS NOT GOOD FOR YOU." (opens the original)
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