HeyJaredThe Normal Mess
We're Ashley Fetyko & Cayce Lynch. We're Millennials, we're lawyers, we're moms, we’re Swifties, and we're best friends!We're deep in the thick of paid working motherhood.It's real, and it's funny, and sometimes, it's real funny. But also? It's no joke!It's...
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The Normal Mini Mess: Sometimes You Need to Feel Small! (opens the original)
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What is "small self," and why is it the key to joy and the antidote to anxiety? In this Mini Mess, we're exploring what is happening in our brains and bodies when we experience awe and its close cousin, wonder. Our takeaway? Sometimes you just need to feel small! Until we're back with full episodes (soon, Messy Besties - soon!), we're delivering a snippet of some of our favorite previous episodes. If this one resonated with you, you can find the full episode in Season Two, Episode 9: It's a Wond
The Normal Mini Mess: Water Your Anns and Leslies! (opens the original)
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It's... (sing it along with Cayce) The Normal Mini Mess! And we are bringing back one of our favorite all-time episodes/discussions. Who's the Ann, and who's the Leslie?! It's not just hair color. Ashley's a steamroller with zero chill. Cayce's the mellow, measured cool gal who keeps everyone sane. And together, we're... celebrating one of our most treasured topics: female friendships. If you needed a nudge to call or text a messy bestie, let this be it. We need each other, especially when the "
The Normal Mini Mess: Permission to STOP (opens the original)
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When is enough enough?! We constantly feel the drive to do more and be more, but where does that Cult of Busyness come from, and is it wildly overrated? In this throwback to our Season 1 Finale, we officially grant you Permission to STOP, and this time, we bring an actual neuroscientist (hey, Dr. Emily Cross! We <3 you!) to explain why breaks are not only normal, but critical ! We're coming back soon, Messy Besties! But in the mean time, go follow us, will you? Go ahead - we'll wait. Click the "
The Normal Mini Miss: Executive Presence is a Lie (opens the original)
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Got 7 minutes for us to get salty about a topic that is all over our LinkedIn feed and really grinds our gears?! Let's talk "Executive Presence," shall we? We are here to proclaim: IT'S A LIE. If (white) men have it and women (and people of color) don't, there's only one conclusion we can draw: it's a nonsense categorization intended to exclude. Your paper doll has all the presence she needs, so can we collectively agree to stop trying to make her fit some square-shouldered archetype that wasn't
The Normal Mini Miss: Bring Your Whole Muchness to Work! (opens the original)
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We're back for a Mini Mess to encourage you to bring the whole of your beautiful "muchness" to work! Why do we pretend that our work selves and our life selves are two different people? What is this, "Severance"?! (Ashley is watching it during this season break. It's on AppleTV. Go watch it, but brace yourself to see Ben from Parks and Rec in a very different light.) It's apparently a hot take these days to say you should bring the whole of who you are to work, but we argue it's the only way to
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