HeyJaredThe Feminist Dating Show
How do I find the right relationship when dating apps suck? How can I find better dates? How can I deal with that nagging anxiety that no one is out there for me?
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284. Make dating apps optional: A roadmap to attract the right relationship IRL (opens the original)
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You don't have to be on dating apps to be "trying" in your dating life. This episode gives you the alternative strategy that has worked for hundreds of my clients (and worked for me to meet my husband). In this episode, you'll learn exactly how to date IRL. Inside episode 284: → Why "I don't chase, I attract" is one of my least favorite pieces of dating advice, and how it is negatively impacting your IRL dating life → My rule for feminist dating that I've seen work for hundreds of people who fel
283. My story: from people pleasing and settling in dating, to attracting more as the main character (and how you can, too) (opens the original)
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In episode 283, I'm getting personal about how people pleasing made me settle in dating, friendship, and work, how it led to panic attacks on my lunch break, and the three-step formula I used to quit, one small choice at a time. → I thought I was and wanted "too much," and how that kept me in a relationship where none of my emotional needs were met → How people pleasing was showing up in every relationship in my life, from texting clients at 10 p.m. to making every single plan for my friend grou
282. "It's scary to want things." How to stop people pleasing and attract what you actually want, with my client Jackie (opens the original)
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Jackie was burnt out to a crisp. She was in a job she felt trapped in, because the story was that she had to be of service no matter how she felt. She had taken a sabbatical that was supposed to be two or three months, and it took her a couple of months just to relax. She came back and was immediately depressed. She couldn't see the forest through the trees. She had no vision. She just wanted to lay down. She also knew she was a background person who wanted to be a main stage person, and she cou
281. When is the right time to have sex? (and why you keep asking everyone but yourself) (opens the original)
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The way you do one thing is the way you do everything. So when you're stressed about the question "when is the right time to have sex??" and outsource your answer to another dating expert or another tiktoker, I hear an opportunity to build a life changing skillset that will create clarity for this question (and all questions).... That skillset? Self-trust. When you build the skill set of self-trust, with sex, with friendships, with romance, with work, it all gets more easeful. Episode 281 unpack
280. The Sneaky Ways You're People Pleasing (and How to Stop) (opens the original)
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The good, reliable, everyone-comes-to-me best friend. You've been praised for that role your whole life. What if it's the reason you can't get yourself to shoot your shot, ask for more, or take up space with your desires? This episode names the pattern hiding under all of it: people pleasing. Not being nice. The habit of self-abandoning in real time to avoid being misunderstood, judged, or abandoned. Lily breaks down where it lives and how to start unhooking from it. Inside episode 280: → The tw
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