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Essays on relationships, identity, and becoming—with a Nigerian perspective that travels. Honest, personal, occasionally ranty—always real.
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If I Had to Start My Writing Career Again, I Would Do These Things Differently (opens the original)
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Oh, to be a successful woman (opens the original)
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Hi, ,I have been thinking about success lately. Not the kind of success we put on Instagram. Not the kind that comes with a nice picture, a caption about how God has been good, and ten people in the comments saying, “More wins, queen.”I mean the kind of success you actually have to live with.If somebody sat you down today and asked you, “What does success mean to you?”, what would you say?Maybe you would say money.Maybe you would say having a family you love. Maybe it is owning a home, building
Do You and Your Siblings Remember the Same Childhood? (opens the original)
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Hi ,I don’t know if you grew up with siblings, but if you did, I want you to think about something for a second.If someone sat you and your siblings down today and asked, “Did you all actually grow up in the same family?” what would you say?You’d probably laugh first because, obviously, you did.Same parents. Same house. Same surname. Same Christmases. Same family meetings where everybody was being shouted at for one person’s offence. Same mother calling your name from the other room and somehow
Illusions You Need to Be Careful Of (opens the original)
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Could this be the reason you don’t have a husband yet? (opens the original)
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Hi , this is very unserious investigation into why everyone is getting married except us...I just came back from church, ate my small chops (even though we were lectured on the importance of fasting and, in fact, were fasting today. I still ate it, but with guilt in my heart, so that should count for something, right? At least as an act of remorse. 😭).I picked up my phone and opened Instagram, which was probably my first mistake.Because there was another influencer/celebrity wedding.More like an
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