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Essays on identity, transformation, and the selves we become, plus tools for finding your own story. A space where claiming your story matters, and all versions of self are welcome.
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Happy, Happy, Joy, Joy! (opens the original)
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Thank you , , , , and many others for tuning into my live video with ! This was probably the most fun live I've done. It was actually a bit mental, how excited I was. I guess you have to know me to understand that my level of excitement here is unprecedented, because despite my RBF and cool exterior, I'm actually just Ren and Stimpy bouncing around singing "Happy Happy Joy Joy." So happy because I
The Un-moments of Life (opens the original)
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Dear Readers,My memoir is officially published, and I just want to thank you—for the support, the likes, the comments, and for generally keeping me sane and motivated as I completed this journey.I apologize if this is the 657th time you’ve heard about my book, but I’m just so damn proud of it and excited for you to finally read it.I wrote Lesson (Un)Planned in part to recognize the “un” moments of my own life: the unplanned, uncomfortable, unfinished parts; the lessons that were hard-won and slo
The Parts We Write Around (opens the original)
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When I started writing my book, I kept writing around parts of my life.Relationships, mostly.Um, because how humiliating to dissect and display some of my most destructive relationships for the world to see.I kept telling myself that’s not what the book is about. So, I found myself skipping over the relationships and treating them like minor details, even though they shaped entire years of my life.This is when I discovered that the parts of your story you least want to tell are often the ones yo
A Tale of Two Memoirs (opens the original)
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Thanks for watching our Live Chat…here are a few highlights. From Emmett“I started writing just to find this character, like watch his journey.”“I loved him, respected him. And then I realized I’m no longer him.”“Writing the manuscript is like, in my eyes, about 10% of the actual work involved.”“Always lean back into the person that you know you are and be honest with yourself.”“If I can connect with one individual, one person, I feel like that’s worth it to me.”“I want to free people’s
Two Memoirs, One Inevitable Conversation (opens the original)
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Thank you , , , , and many others for tuning into my live video with ! Coming soon! My interviews with and A few takeaways from my live conversation with Deborah Speck-Carstens and I met almost a year ago; I think I commented on her post, or vice versa. Eventually we figured out we were both writing memoirs. A few mo
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