HeyJaredShame... The Path Out of Hell
A trauma therapist exploring, with you, how to understand and work with your shame.
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Why Shame Keeps Controlling You (opens the original)
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I’ve spent over 15 years working as a psychotherapist specialising in shame, and I’ve now run nearly 30 intensive shame workshops. What I share here is drawn from real-world experience of how shame shapes behaviour, relationships, and identity.This video is also about my book, Shame: The Path Out of Hell, a book I chose to self-publish so I could speak honestly and without compromise.It’s a kind book, but it’s also a brave read.Because here’s the truth:If you have shame, you will shame othersIf
You Can’t Rush Healing (opens the original)
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Beautiful person, Before I share news of this week’s video, I want to draw your attention to that I am teaching two free classes in a little over a week. The first is a 30 minute breathwork class at 10am on Monday 24 August (that’s UK time). It will be recorded. You can sign up to come live, or access the recording, here: https://carolyncowan.com/free-breathwork-class-24th-august/ The second is a 60 minute yoga class on Tuesday 25 August, 10am UK time. You can sign up for that (and/or, again, re
High Functioning vs Low Functioning Trauma (opens the original)
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My name is Carolyn Cowan and we’re exploring shame. Today I want to talk about something that comes up again and again in my work as a psychotherapist: high functioning trauma and low functioning trauma.When something happens...when you’re triggered, when there’s a crisis...you might notice that you respond in very different ways. Some people become incredibly capable, calm, and decisive. Others freeze, hide, or feel completely overwhelmed.Neither is right or wrong. They are safety mechanisms.In
When are you unsafe? (opens the original)
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In this video I’m exploring recovery from shame, specifically what it means to begin deserving better.One of the most important questions you can ask yourself is this:When do I feel unsafe?I do not mean this in terms of a dramatic, life-threatening way you lack safety in any moment, but in the small, everyday ways that quietly shape how you think, feel, and behave. In this video, I invite you to investigate:First, when you feel unsafe (at home, with others, online, in your own mind)Second, what
When Are You Safe? (opens the original)
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In this video, I explore thist important question. It is one I will often ask clients when I start working with them. The answer comes too quickly, “Never.” But, when we start to notice, that may not be quite true. What is the opposite of shame?If you’ve experienced shame, you’ll know it is a deeply separating emotion.It isolates and disconnects. It takes you into very young parts of yourself where you may feel unlovable, unsafe, or fundamentally “not enough.”Shame is, at its core, an intimacy d
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