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What a healthy relationship actually feels like (opens the original)
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DISCUSSION GROUP SHOW NOTES In this episode, SB Crux replaces vague relationship ideals with a concrete, psychology-backed picture of what emotional health in a relationship actually looks like. The episode covers: Why growing up watching relationships that "looked functional" gave most of us a dangerously incomplete picture of what health means — and why social media made it worse Gottman's longitudinal marital research — what decades of studying couples actually found: conflict is inevitable,
Why Men & Women misunderstand each other (opens the original)
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You've had this argument before. Different words, different day — but underneath, it's the same fight. She feels he's emotionally distant. He feels he already shows he cares and can't understand why that's not enough. And here is the uncomfortable truth: neither of them is lying. Both of them are right. In this episode, SB Crux explains why this keeps happening — not as a compatibility problem, but as a communication mismatch shaped by socialisation long before either of them met. From the way N
Who's the problem? Your partner or your childhood? (opens the original)
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SHOW NOTES In this episode, SB Crux makes the case that the most damaging third party in many Nigerian relationships is not an ex, not a family member, not a friend — it is an unexamined childhood. The episode covers: Disproportionate response — why your reaction to what your partner does is often bigger than the event itself, and what that gap is telling you How the brain stores emotional memory — not as stories, but as sensations tied to the original wound, so that a partner being 15 minutes l
The LIES about Emotional Manipulation (opens the original)
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DISCUSSION GROUP: https://chat.whatsapp.com/IIoCb4LbhI26FXGbOnAwp7?s=cl&p=i&ilr=0 SHOW NOTES In this episode, SB Crux takes on one of the most misused and misunderstood words in modern relationships — emotional manipulation — and gives it a precise, honest, and uncomfortable examination. The episode covers: Why emotional manipulation is so hard to spot — because it often presents as love, care, and guidance rather than control A clear definition: emotional manipulation is the use of indirect, de
Emotionally Unavailable | Why some people cannot be loved properly (opens the original)
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DISCUSSION GROUP: https://chat.whatsapp.com/IIoCb4LbhI26FXGbOnAwp7?s=cl&p=i&ilr=0 SHOW NOTES In this episode, SB Crux addresses one of the most exhausting experiences in relationships — giving everything and still feeling like it is never enough — and explains the psychology behind why this happens. The episode covers: What emotional unavailability actually means — and why it is one of the most misused phrases in modern relationships The door metaphor: why unavailable partners are not incapable
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