HeyJaredRadical Self
"Hey guys. Let me tell you what this is about. I really want to tell my story. As a polyamorous married woman, mother and relationship coach I've got more than a few things to share.
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The Real Reason I Have Time for Multiple Relationships (opens the original)
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"How do you have time for multiple partners, two kids, a business, the gym, and friends, and still look like you're having fun?" It's the question Thorhildur gets asked constantly, and in this episode she gives the honest, unfiltered answer. She breaks down the real shifts that freed up her time and energy: letting go of the belief that one person has to meet all her needs, ditching default togetherness for intentional time, and rethinking what she actually owes her kids as their mother. The sho
Stop Pretending You Don't Want It (opens the original)
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This is a raw, unplanned little episode built around one funny, provocative thought experiment: what if you could actually choose your desires? Sparked by a conversation with a listener wrestling with mismatched desire in his marriage, Thorhildur explores why we don't get to pick what lights us up, whether it's wanting multiple partners, wanting to be more adventurous, or wanting to want something entirely different than what we do. She talks candidly about trying to suppress her own desires ove
Nobody Can Steal Your Partner & Here's Why (opens the original)
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"I trust my partner, I just don't trust other people." It's a statement Thorhildur hears constantly from people curious about, but hesitant toward, non-monogamy. In this episode, recorded from bed in Munich after a day of mini golf and lake time, she's joined by her boyfriend Marcel to pull the statement apart layer by layer. They dig into who that statement is really about (hint: not the "other people"), why it often reveals a deeper mistrust of your own partner rather than strangers, and why i
My Wife Is Done Being "Open", But I'm Just Getting Started (opens the original)
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Someone slid into Thorhildur's DMs with a familiar problem: he and his wife tried swinging, he loved it, and now she's done. She's not interested anymore, and he doesn't know what to do next. In this episode, recorded on a bright Icelandic midsummer evening walking around a lake, Thorhildur answers the question by going back to her own experience of mismatched desire in her marriage, the moment she realized she couldn't wait for her husband to move things forward, and what it actually took to ow
"It's Just About Sex": Debunking The Biggest Myths of Non-Monogamy (opens the original)
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"Non-monogamy is just about sex." "It means you love your partner less." "It's inherently unstable." Thorhildur has heard it all, and in this episode she's busting the 7 biggest myths, one by one. Drawing on her own decade-long journey from monogamy to polyamory, plus years of coaching clients through the same terrain, she unpacks mononormativity: the invisible belief that monogamy is the "correct" default that everything else has to justify itself against. She takes apart the idea that opening
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