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Welcome to Outwitting the Manipulator, the podcast that gives you powerful techniques to protect yourself as manipulation is taking place. Your hosts are authors and communication experts Robin Golinski and Dr.
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Dropping the Bar: How Manipulation Sneaks Into Relationships Before Violence Ever Does (opens the original)
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In this episode of Outwitting the Manipulator, hosts Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski sit down with Stephanie MacAlister, founder of Virtua Connect Counseling Clinic (a cross-Canada virtual counseling practice), who has counseled both perpetrators and survivors of domestic violence. The conversation traces how verbal manipulation and isolation typically precede physical violence in relationships, with Stephanie introducing her "dropping the bar" framework - the gradual process by which couples n
When Caregiving Meets Manipulation: Surviving a Sibling Power Struggle with Nicole Hilgenkamp (opens the original)
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What happens when you're grieving a parent and the sibling who should be your ally becomes your biggest obstacle? Nicole Hilgenkamp, founder of Your Parent's Keeper [http://yourparentskeeper.com], joins Robin to share her raw story of being the "designated daughter” - chosen to manage her mother's care, only to watch her oldest brother's manipulation tear the family apart. Robin breaks down the win-lose mindset driving the conflict, coaches Nicole live using the ethos-pathos-logos framework, and
The Golden Cage: How Wealth and Status Trap You in a Manipulative Marriage, with Mia J. Hanks (opens the original)
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What happens when you have everything — the gated home, the charmed life, the husband everyone admires — and none of it is real? Author Mia J. Hanks spent 29 years married to a covert narcissist before walking away from it all. In this episode, Mia and Robin discover unsettling parallels in their stories: the slow erasure of identity, the moment a therapist's simple question exposed just how lost they'd become, and why the people closest to them couldn't help. Mia reveals what finally broke the
What Makes Someone a Manipulator? A Debate You Weren't Expecting with Dr. Jeremy Sherman (opens the original)
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When a researcher who's spent 30 years studying human behavior from the chemical origins of life to modern relationships sits down with two communication coaches, the conversation goes places nobody planned. Dr. Jeremy Sherman, author of What's Up With A**holes?, challenges Robin and Dennis on the words we use, the rules we trust, and whether anyone can truly claim to be an expert on manipulation. What starts as a friendly interview turns into a real-time sparring match — with pushback and playf
Protection against Conflation and Dictating Feelings (opens the original)
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Dr. Dennis Becker and Robin Golinski discuss two manipulative tactics, Conflation, and Dictating Feelings, and how to protect against them in depth. They define conflation as intentionally twisting multiple issues together so quickly that it’s hard to separate them, using examples from everyday situations and politics, and emphasize that active listening and slowing down in the moment helps identify and interrupt it. They recommend putting manipulators “on notice” rather than trying to change th
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