HeyJaredOn Sex & Donuts by Alyx of Chicago
A Chicago companion since 2011. Writer and kettlebell athlete. Essays on intimacy, relationships, kink, entrepreneurship, and the beautifully unconventional.
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The only two people in a crowded, intentionally designed room. (opens the original)
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It isn’t enough to hope for good chemistry. Instead, you have to create conditions where chemistry can emerge. Intellectual attraction, intentionality, and environment can create intimacy before anything overtly sexual happens.Over the summer, I experienced this convergence—this reciprocal slow-build of anticipation—with an artist of sorts.And it all began with an email. “Your mind has drawn me in like a moth to a flame. I’d like the chance to explore it in person.” His opener read less like a d
He knew that I knew his kryptonite. (opens the original)
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I don’t invent desire. I catalyze it. (opens the original)
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What differentiates a bad client from a good one? (opens the original)
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How in the fuck do I write authentically in 2026? (opens the original)
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Problems:A) How do I write authentically now that the energy I once channeled into my craft fuels the maintenance of my physical and mental fitness?B) How do I write authentically now that I’m no longer playing Don Draper? Staying up late, drinking too much, meeting men in bars, then inviting them up to my now-former office after midnight? That energy, while unsustainable, was creatively fertile. C) How do I write authentically when I’m also having to write for what SEO has become in 2026—and fo
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