HeyJarednotes by allie
weekly(ish) notes and reflections on slow living, habits, identity and productivity through a modern psychological lens.
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You don't need more motivation, you need fewer decisions (opens the original)
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For a long time, I thought I had a motivation problem.Some weeks I’d wake up early, exercise, cook healthy meals, keep my flat tidy and work through my to-do list without much effort. Other weeks, even the smallest tasks felt strangely difficult. I’d put off going for a walk, spend too long deciding what to eat and somehow make simple decisions feel exhausting.I assumed I needed more discipline.Looking back, I don’t think discipline was ever the issue.The difference between those two versions of
10 rules that make my days run themselves (opens the original)
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The busier I get, the less I rely on motivation and the more I rely on a few simple rules.They’re not strict, and I don’t follow them perfectly. But they’ve removed hundreds of tiny decisions from my days, making life feel calmer, more organised and surprisingly effortless.Decide tomorrow before today ends. A few minutes of planning in the evening saves a lot of hesitation the next morning.Never leave a room empty-handed. If something belongs elsewhere, I take it with me. It’s one of the easiest
My unofficial rules for a calmer life (opens the original)
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For a long time, I assumed a calmer life would arrive one day.Once work became less hectic. Once my home was more organised. Once I’d developed better habits or finally learned how to manage everything perfectly.It turns out life doesn’t suddenly become calm because your circumstances change.For me, calm has come from collecting a handful of small rules. They’re not rules in the strict sense, more like reminders. Ideas that help me make better decisions when life feels busy, overwhelming or unne
20 systems I wish I'd built years earlier (opens the original)
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People often ask which habits have made the biggest difference to my life. The honest answer is that it hasn’t been habits alone, it’s been systems.Unlike motivation, systems don’t depend on how I feel that day. They quietly remove friction, save mental energy and make good decisions happen almost by accident.Looking back, these are the systems I wish I’d put in place much sooner.1. Planning tomorrow before today endsEvery evening, I spend a few minutes deciding what tomorrow will look like. I c
Things I stopped doing that made me happier than anything I started (opens the original)
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For a long time, I thought becoming happier meant finding the right habit.Maybe I needed a better morning routine. A new productivity system. Another book that would finally teach me how to become the person I wanted to be.Some of those things genuinely helped.But when I look back over the past few years, the biggest improvements in my life didn’t come from things I started doing. They came from the things I quietly stopped.Not all at once, and not perfectly. Just gradually, one habit, one expec
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