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not a good girl

after 24 years of marriage, I began the messy process of untangling myself from a role I'd mistaken for my identity. Writing about relationships, midlife, sovereignty, and what happens when we stop abandoning ourselves in order to belong.

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Sep 30, 2026
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Jul 12, 2026

Latest issues

  1. Issue · Sep 30, 2026

    does marriage stunt your development? (opens the original)

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    <img alt="" class="sizing-normal" height="971" src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!6RpF!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F3f49ae2c-0b62-4b2e-a321-32bafe1f332b_5184x3456.j

  2. Issue · Sep 1, 2026

    why I’m no longer a fan of Esther Perel (opens the original)

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  3. Issue · Aug 9, 2026

    i still love men, i just have no desire to manage them. (opens the original)

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    <img alt="" class="sizing-normal" height="2494" src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!8sde!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fd8fef9c4-1e9e-41c0-bcd7-335113544c91_3741x2494.

  4. Issue · Jul 12, 2026

    can we grow, even when the relationship isn't? (opens the original)

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