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how to feel like yourself again when every day feels the same (opens the original)
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there are stretches of life where nothing is unusually wrong and yet everything feels faintly interchangeable. the same mug appears beside the same laptop, dinner is made at roughly the same time and messages pop from the same people about the same practical things. even weekends can start feeling like slightly better-lit weekdays with more laundry in them.<a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!jxlo!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/http
how to become a writer who writes every day about everything (opens the original)
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one of the most useful things i have learned about writing is that professional writers seem to spend alarmingly little time waiting to feel like writers.stephen king writes whether the day feels promising or ordinary. anne lamott reduces intimidating projects to tiny assignments. john mcphee accepts that the first attempt may be painfully difficult and… Read more
learned helplessness: what constant criticism does to your confidence (opens the original)
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confidence hardly ever disappears in one spectacular moment. more often, it gets edited out of a person via one correction at a time. someone tells you that you loaded the dishwasher wrong, took the wrong route, chose the wrong restaurant, phrased the email badly or should have bought the other version. some of the corrections may be perfectly reasonable. the problem appears after enough ordinary decisions have been treated as opportunities for improvement and the person making them begins to wo
The Growth Advice We’ve Been Getting Completely Wrong | Daniele Coyle (opens the original)
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We are taught that growth comes from working harder, setting better goals and becoming more disciplined. But what if the way we have been pursuing growth is exactly what keeps us feeling exhausted, disconnected and stuck?In this episode, I speak with Daniel Coyle, New York Times bestselling author of The Culture Code and Flourish, about the difference between achieving and truly flourishing. We explore why your environment can shape your life more powerfully than willpower, how comfort limits gr
things i do when life starts feeling like one long to-do list (opens the original)
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every so often, i realise i have accidentally turned my entire life into admin.the day begins with things that need doing and ends with a mental inventory of whatever survived. even the pleasant parts acquire jobs around them such as seeing a friend means finding a date, booking somewhere and remembering to reply to the message about what time. reading becomes another thing i have been meaning to get back into. a free saturday somehow fills with returning something, ordering the shampoo that is
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