HeyJaredHow Did We Get Here?
Just a young-ish married couple with TONS of experience, stories & insight into having a pleasure filled, authentic & full life. Meeting and getting pregnant at 21, we look at the life we created together & can't help but ask How Did We Get Here?
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Arousal Types; Understanding How You Get Aroused Or Why It Feels So Difficult (opens the original)
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The reason your sex life feels mismatched might not be low libido—it might be that you and your partner turn on in completely different ways. Brittani and Aaron break down responsive arousal vs. spontaneous arousal and explain why understanding the difference can instantly change the pressure, expectations, and way you connect. If you have ever felt like you’re “never in the mood,” wondered why one partner wants sex out of nowhere while the other needs time to build, or felt awkward initiating w
Where'd My Libido Go? Pt. 3 (opens the original)
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The reason your libido feels missing may have nothing to do with desire and everything to do with safety, regulation, and the life you’re living. Aaron and Brittani close out their Where Did My Libido Go series by breaking down the final three pillars of pleasure - 8. Nervous System, 9. Embodiment, and 10. Environment - and show why lasting intimacy starts long before the bedroom. Brittani makes the case that a body stuck in fight, flight, or freeze cannot fully receive pleasure, especially when
Free Use in Marriage - Why This Kink Only Works With Trust (opens the original)
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Free use, dominance, and submission are only sexy when they’re built on trust, boundaries, and real emotional safety. Brittani and Aaron break down what Free Use actually means in a relationship, how a healthy Dom-Sub dynamic works, and why this kink can reduce pressure, performance anxiety, reduce decision fatigue, eliminate awkward initiation, and make intimacy feel lighter for both partners.They unpack the difference between a Receiver and an Initiator, what the initiator has to pay attention
Where'd My Libido Go? Pt. 2 (opens the original)
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In this episode of Love, Lust and Real Life, Aaron and Brittani continue their “Where Did My Libido Go?” series by unpacking Pillars 5 through 7 of the Ten Pillars of Pleasure: Relationship, Communication, and Pleasure. They explore how emotional safety, trust, attachment styles, boundaries, initiation, erotic language, arousal, touch, and self-awareness all work together to shape desire and intimacy. Rather than treating low libido like a quick fix problem, Aaron and Brittani explain why real c
A Silent Killer of Sexual Chemistry in Long-Term Relationships (opens the original)
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Predictability can quietly kill desire - even in a relationship that’s otherwise full of love, trust, and attraction. If you’ve ever felt the spark fade because everything in your sex life started to feel scripted, this conversation shows how to bring it back without making intimacy complicated. Brittani and Aaron get brutally honest about a moment that could have turned awkward fast: one playful comment about things feeling “too predictable” could have sent both of them into shame, overthinking
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