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Choose Your Witnesses Wisely (opens the original)
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There are people in my life who love me deeply.I know that.I don’t question it.And there are things I no longer tell some of them.That used to feel cruel.Or secretive.Or somehow dishonest.Because I thought intimacy meant access.If I loved you, I should tell you everything.If you loved me, you should be able to hold everything.Healing has taught me something much more nuanced:Love and capacity are not the same thing.Someone can love you with their whole heart...and still not have the emotional ca
Who Gets Access to the New You? (opens the original)
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My circle got smaller.Much smaller.And for a little while, that scared me.Am I isolating? Is this a pattern within a pattern?Because we’re taught to measure the health of our relationships by how many people remain, not necessarily by how we feel when we’re with them.But as my nervous system became more regulated, I wasn’t interested in collecting people.I was interested in connection.And those aren’t the same thing.For years, I was often the glue in my friendships.I asked the questions.I rememb
Not Everyone Gets the Same Access to You Anymore (opens the original)
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Last week, I wrote about what happened when I regulated my nervous system and my relationships got...weird.I stopped rushing.I stopped automatically responding to every text.I stopped being the emotional glue in every conversation.I stopped asking all the questions just to keep things comfortable.And once I wasn’t spending so much energy maintaining relationships, I could actually see them.That was illuminating.And occasionally annoying. 😂Because nervous system regulation gave me something I had
I Regulated My Nervous System. Then My Relationships Got Weird. (opens the original)
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There is something no one really warns you about when you start healing.Your relationships might get weird.Not necessarily because anyone did anything terrible.Not because you’ve suddenly become enlightened and everyone around you is toxic.And not because healing requires dramatically cutting people out of your life while posting quotes about protecting your peace.Sometimes your relationships change for a much simpler reason:You stop playing the role you’ve always played in them.And then you get
The Years Weren't Wasted (opens the original)
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One of the quietest emotions that showed up after my nervous system began to regulate wasn’t grief.It was shame.Not because I had done anything wrong.Not because I wanted a life that looked different.I’ve chosen many of the things that make my life unconventional.I’m 47.I’ll be 48 in October.I chose not to have children.I’m content without a traditional marriage.I’m beginning graduate school at an age when many people are talking about retirement.I’ve built a career that has zigged and zagged mo
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