HeyJaredGhosted, Gagged and Gay!
A podcast about queer love gone wrong (and right).Real stories. Real chaos. All gay.The podcast where queer folks spill the tea on their past relationships.
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Why Can’t I Stay Hard? The Hidden Psychology of Sexual Performance Anxiety with Shay Doran (opens the original)
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What if your erection problem isn’t actually about your penis? In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged & Gay!, I’m joined by men’s coach Shay Doran, who specializes in helping men overcome sexual performance anxiety, erection problems, and the fear of losing their erection during sex. We’re going beyond the usual conversation about erectile dysfunction to explore what can actually happen when sex starts feeling like a performance test. Why can worrying about staying hard make it harder to stay hard?
He Sabotaged Real Love to Chase a Ghost (Gay Dating Story) (opens the original)
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What if the emotionally unavailable men were never the real problem, what if you were terrified of the one person who actually showed up? In this week's listener story, we follow a gay man stuck in a brutal cycle: chasing men who pull away, sabotaging a genuine healthy connection, and watching it all unravel in real time. What looks like bad luck in gay dating is actually fearful attachment at work, a deep, subconscious terror of being truly loved. I walk through the psychological patterns behin
Sex Is Easier Than Intimacy?! Trauma, Shame & the Sex Scripts with Radiance Sanneman & Vanessa Cushing (opens the original)
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Why does sex sometimes feel easier than intimacy? In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay Halloum is joined by Radiance Sanneman (trauma specialist + IFS therapist) and Vanessa Cushing (AASECT-certified sex therapist) to unpack how trauma and shame shape our dating patterns, our nervous systems, and the way we use sex to manage anxiety or earn closeness. We talk about the difference between real chemistry and a trauma response, the signs you might be using sex as regulation, and how c
“I Thought He Was ‘Chill’”: A Grindr Date Story About Mixed Signals, Secrecy & Self-Abandonment (opens the original)
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A listener sent me a Grindr date story that starts off promising (good morning texts, voice notes, “no games”) and ends exactly the way your nervous system is already predicting. In this short solo episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, we unpack the moment “chill vibes” turns into emotional avoidance, the difference between privacy vs secrecy, and why “you’re intense” is often what people say when you stop accepting confusion. In this episode: The “chill” profile that’s actually a warning label H
Privacy vs Secrecy in Gay Dating: Shame, Closeting & Emotional Safety with Samuel Garza Bernstein (opens the original)
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What’s the real difference between privacy and secrecy in gay dating and why does it matter so much for emotional safety? In this episode of Ghosted, Gagged, and Gay, Lonay is joined by Samuel Garza Bernstein (screenwriter, author, and playwright) for a conversation about how shame shapes the way gay men date, love, and protect themselves. We talk about what “authenticity” can look like when being publicly out isn’t safe, the real-life risks that shaped earlier generations, and how those surviva
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