HeyJaredDisagree Better
25+ years in the room with conflict, translated into long-form essays that help you find the signal in the noise.
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When conflict is real but not true (opens the original)
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Hello, my friend -I’ve been sharing this story and idea in my courses and with my clients for a very long time, so it may be familiar to those of you who’ve been with me for years (thank you).Because the idea is so powerful, I thought it was time to share it here, too.The concept is elegantly simple to grasp, and yet challenging to bring to life in the midst of our own conflicts. So I’ve created a bonus worksheet for members who want to take it from concept to practice.Take care of each other,Ta
The best advice I ever got about handling conflict (opens the original)
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While I was donating blood years ago, a Red Cross nurse placed her hand on my forehead as though to take my temperature and said, Wait. You deal with conflict for a living? Honey, that is just weird.Hello there, I’m Tammy Lenski, and I work with conflict…on purpose.<div class="image
Combat naive realism with perspective-getting (opens the original)
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Hello, my friends -A mediator friend and I were discussing how debunked ideas manage to hang on as conventional wisdom. Venting is one of those; it continues to be encouraged in some corners, despite a strong body of evidence that it’s more harm then help. Perspective-taking is another, so we’ll explore it today, along with a better option.I have a favor to ask: If you get something useful from my articles, I’d appreciate you “liking” and “restacking” them (the
Office hours with Tammy, September 2026 (opens the original)
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This month, I’m answering a question from Steph about disagreement and criticism expressed by a team member in front of senior leadership, and mediator questions from Ted about balancing power and “training your way out of conflict.” Read more
The magic of mental time travel (opens the original)
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Hello -The cool nights we’re getting now are signaling the coming of foliage season here in New Hampshire, when the trees display such splendor that people arrive from all over the world to witness it. It’s my favorite hiking season, and I like to head out very early, before work (and before the mobs).After I published On the Emotional Labor of Conflict last month, I realized I’d left out the mental time travel exercise that ultimately led me to my snarky inner voice’s comment. So thi
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