HeyJaredComplex Couples Podcast
Welcome! This is a space where your marriage matters, your values matter, and your choices matter.I’m Heidi, a couples therapist and founder of Complex Couples Coaching.
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If Your Marriage Ends, Does That Mean You Didn’t Do Enough? (opens the original)
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What if the end of your marriage has you wondering whether you could have done more, tried harder, or somehow been enough? In this episode, I talk about the painful place where accountability can turn into believing the outcome was ours to control. And what can begin to shift when we look at it differently. Why it can feel like trying harder or becoming “better” could have changed the outcome The difference between taking responsibility for your part and taking responsibility for the marriage it
Daniel Episode: What Helps (and What Doesn’t) When Someone Comes Out (opens the original)
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Someone you love just came out to you, or maybe you heard secondhand and don't know what to say. Here's where to start. Daniel and I talk through our experience with: What actually is supportive in the response to someone coming out, and it wasn't what most people assume The well-meaning response that can quietly do the most damage Why the way you responded on day one isn't the end of the story This Week's Invitation If this is a situation you are currently facing, think of that person and consi
Could I have prevented this? (opens the original)
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If you’ve wondered what you could have done differently after your spouse cheated, there may be a reason that question is so compelling. When a spouse steps outside the marriage, it’s easy to look back at yourself and wonder what you could have changed. In this episode, I share a story that changed the way I think about that question, and what we may miss when we’re searching for an answer. Why “If I had just…” can feel like such a compelling place to look after a spouse cheats What can happen w
If You're Gay and Cheating, I Understand Why (opens the original)
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A phone call from a friend cracked open something I'd believed my whole life. This episode walks through a real conversation that challenged how I think about infidelity, specifically for those in mixed orientation marriages. If you're gay or lesbian and married to someone of the opposite sex, and you've stepped outside your marriage, this one's for you. Today we’re talking about: Why mixed orientation marriages create a two choice dilemma most people never have to face What an affair actually d
Why This Still Counts as Grief Even If Your Life Looks Normal (opens the original)
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If your life looks normal from the outside but something inside you has quietly fallen apart, this episode is for you. The kind of grief you’re experiencing has a specific name. In This Episode Why and how the loss you experience after a marriage disclosure or discovery is real grief, even without a funeral or a diagnosis Why grief that no one else can see still moves through the same stages, anger, denial, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, in no particular order How to ask for help withou
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