HeyJaredChoose Recovery For Couples
Having experienced betrayal in their marriage, Luke and Alana Gordon, experts in betrayal trauma healing, and founders of Choose Recovery Services, help couples working to heal their relationship after infidelity and betrayal.
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114: The Gap Between Sobriety and Relational Recovery - with Tryan Stutes (opens the original)
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Why can someone be years into sobriety and still feel disconnected from their partner? Choose Recovery Services coach Tryan Stutes joins Luke to unpack "the gap" — the invisible wall of pride, fear, and old defenses that keeps couples stuck long after the acting-out stops. It's a raw, honest look at what real accountability requires beyond just staying sober. In this episode, you'll learn: What "the gap" really is Why sobriety does not always equal empathy Accountability vs. explaining yourself
113: Oh Boy, We're Going to Talk About the "A" Word (opens the original)
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You’ve stopped the pornography. You’ve ended the affair. You’re in therapy and doing the recovery work—so why does your partner still not feel safe? In this powerful conversation, Luke Gordon is joined by Amie Woolsey and together they unpack the hidden patterns that can continue long after sexual behavior stops, including secrecy, defensiveness, control, image management, and emotional disconnection. They explore what it really takes to move from simply stopping harmful behavior to developing g
112: What Does It Really Mean to Be a Protector? (opens the original)
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What does it really mean to be a safe person? This week, Luke is joined by Alana Gordon. Together they explore why physical protection is only one part of creating safety—and how emotional regulation, honesty, vulnerability, and the environment we create at home matter just as much. You likely already have the instinct to protect. Now you just need to expand what protection means. Listen to learn: What emotional safety really looks like How regulation creates safety How to expand your definition
111: Scott and Lela's Story: The Turning Point - What Finally Changed (Part 2) (opens the original)
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Don’t miss part 1! Listen here . What happens when sobriety, accountability, counseling, and recovery efforts still don’t create lasting change? Scott and Lela continue to share their journey through repeated betrayal, separation, rock bottom, and the deeper healing that finally began to change their recovery. Their story explores betrayal trauma, boundaries, IFS, therapeutic disclosure, and why sobriety may be the beginning—not the destination—of healing. Listen to learn about: Repeated D-Days
110: Scott and Lela's Story: Four D-Days and the Search for Real Recovery (Part 1) (opens the original)
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What if confession, accountability, sobriety, and marriage counseling still weren't enough? Scott and Lela experienced four D-Days and repeatedly believed that things would finally be different—only to find themselves back in the same cycle. In Part 1 of their story, they openly discuss pornography and compulsive sexual behavior, secrecy, betrayal trauma, marriage counseling, 12-step recovery, gaslighting, shame, and the devastating impact repeated disclosures had on their relationship. Most imp
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