HeyJaredAleksandra Trkulja
I'm a certified Sex, Relationships and Body Image Therapist who likes to yap, write, and share resources and ideas.
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The four communication mistakes people make. (opens the original)
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John and Julie Gottman are the creators of the Gottman Institute, an empire of research and therapy that aims to understand what makes for lasting relationships.Through the decades of research conducted on couples, they identified four negative communication habits that lead to relationship breakdown and failure, and called them the four horsemen of the apocalypse.The four horsemen of the apocalypse include criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling.Fore-warning, I’ve never met anyone
The Body Buffet (opens the original)
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How do I know what I want? How do I ask for it?I want to explore, but where do I even start???At some point, we’ve all asked these questions about our pleasure, and sex. If you deny it, don’t lie to me. I know you have asked yourself these things, because I have too. And, as a Sex and Relationship therapist, I have had hundreds, if not thousands of conversations that include the same lost queries. I have come across some great resources in my time, and while they can be incredibly edu
Your eagerness to consume my body is ruining sex. (opens the original)
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It’s February 2023, and I’m sitting in a hot workshop room in Sydney, with a group of people crowded around the one and only, Betty Martin. If you don’t know her, she’s a leading Somatic Sex Educator in our industry. I draw from all of her resources to help clients navigate consent, pleasure, and communication in Sex Therapy. I spent 5 days doing her ‘Like A Pro’ consent workshop, and it fundamentally changed my relationship to touch. Until those 5 days of allowing my body to intentionally integ
How To Disclose Your STI Status (opens the original)
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As a Sex therapist, I have many clients who book in worried about discussing their sexual health status with the people they have sex with. How do I tell someone I have herpes? How do I ask someone when their last STI check was? The good thing about my clients, is that they go out into the world, trial strategies for communication, and report back. Here’s a list of my own, and their ideas on how to best communicate sexual health status with your sexual partners. When do I tell them?Before any se
Why did getting spanked into a state of relaxation make orgasm more accessible? (opens the original)
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Can’t cum to the thought of maggots. It’s incredibly common for people to find it easier to orgasm during masturbation, compared to partnered sex. I fall within this camp, and my assumption was always that considering it’s my body, I can meet my pleasure needs a lot more accurately than another person might. I think that’s also because when I’m masturbating, I usually spend 30+ minutes building arousal. I used to worry this was too long, and would put this down to the fact my mind would often wa
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